Ilyaadat means to visit the sick. Ta’ziyat is to visit the home of the deceased to console relatives)
(1) If a person suffers from an illness, wound, sore, boil, etc. located in the region of his private parts, do not ask him about the nature of the illness, etc. It is very embarrassing to do so.
(2) Do not express yourself in the presence of the sick or his family in a manner which makes them lose hope in life. Comfort them by telling them that, Insha’Allah, all difficulty will come to an end.
(3) Should you obtain some information regarding injury, illness or death of a person, do not speak about it until you have reliably confirmed it, especially as far as his relatives are concerned. Never inform them without confirmation. If the information was false, unnecessary consternation and grief would have been caused.
(4) If medical treatment has been exhorted, one should adopt it.
(5) Do not use haraam ingredients in medicine.
(Where a pure and halaal medicine is not available, it will be permissible to use a medicine containing haraam ingredients – Translators).
(6) Never use talismans (ta’weez) which are in conflict with the Shariah.
(7) Superstition is a kind of shirk. Hence abstain from this.
(8) If the indisposed person is suffering from such an ailment which causes inconvenience to people, he should remain aloof from them.
(9) Do not force the indisposed person to eat much.
(10) A person visiting the sick should not linger around much. He should not engage in unnecessary conversatiori nor should he enquire from the indisposed person the details of his illness. The sick person is inconvenienced by such behaviour.
(11) Do not inform far-off relatives of slight ailments. This creates unnecessary anxiety.
(12) Some people never bother to visit the sick. This is not correct. There is great thawaab in visiting the sick.
(13) It is improper for a physician to inform the patient that his illness cannot be remedied or that all hope is lost. Some even specify a time limit for the patient’s life.
(14) While people do visit sick relatives and friends they do not visit any sick person purely on account of his being a Muslim. Wherever the opportunity arises to visit the sick, do so even if they are not relatives or friends.
(15) People also accompany the Janaazah of only relatives and friends while they abstain from the Janaazah of a Muslim who is a stranger to them. The Janaazah of any Muslim should be accompanied be the mayyit an acquaintance or a stranger.
(16) When going for Ta’ziyat, console the family of the deceased. Do not do or say anything to augment their sorrow. Nowadays, people instead of comforting the relatives of the mayyit, increase their grief and sorrow by joining them in crying and wailing. On arrival, they sit down to cry. This is not Ta’ziyat. On the contrary it is takleef (giving hardship to others). They utter statements such as: ‘I am grieved to hear this news.’, ‘Your heart must truly be shattered.’, ‘Indeed his death is a great loss.? etc. This applies more to women. Their statements on such occasions are poisonous. Their statements are harmful to both the body and the Deen.
(17) When going for Ta’ziyat do not enquire about the details of the deceased’s illness and circumstances of his death.
(18) Ta’ziyat consists of two acts: To console the bereaved and thawaab for the mayyit (deceased). Everything else besides this is nonsensical and baseless.
(19) The practice of visitors coming from far off, the seventh day, tenth day and fortieth day customs are all baseless.
(20) For people living in the same town the period of Ta’ziyat according to the Shariah is three days. After the third day they should not go for Ta’ziyat. The aim of Ta’ziyat is to console, not to revive the grief and sorrow.
(21) Ta’ziyat is permissible after three days for those who are the residents of other towns. Since the person arrives from another town or city, the bereaved person will be consoled by his words of sympathy. In fact, if the outsider merely sits without uttering a word of consolation, the bereaved may feel hurt and consider the attitude of the visitor as a display of insensitivity. Thus, the Shariat has permitted an outsider to go for Ta’ziyat even after the third day while the period of three days is fixed for local residents.
(22) Only very close relatives who are able to console the bereaved should go for Ta’ziyat. Close friends from whose companionship the bereaved derives comfort should also go.
(23) When consoling the bereaved, do so with statements such as: ‘Whatever has happened, has happened. Crying will be of no avail. Act in the interests and benefit of the mayyit. Recite the Qur’aan Shareef, perform Nafl and make Thikrullah so that the thawaab reaches the mayyit. Make dua of forgiveness on behalf of the mayyit. Have confidence that he is entering Jannat where the comfort is greater. After a time we too shall depart and will meet up with the mayyit’.