A group of frogs were hopping contentedly through the woods, going about their froggy business, when two of them fell into a deep pit. All of the other frogs gathered around the pit to see what could be done to help their companions. When they saw how deep the pit was, the rest of the dismayed group agreed that it was hopeless and told the two frogs in the pit that they should prepare themselves for their fate, because they were as good as dead.
Unwilling to accept this terrible fate, the two frogs began to jump with all of their might. Some of the frogs shouted into the pit that it was hopeless,and that the two frogs wouldn't be in that situation if they had been more careful, more obedient to the froggy rules, and more responsible.
The other frogs continued sorrowfully shouting that they should save their energy and give up, since they were already as good as dead. The two frogs continued jumping as hard as they could, and after several hours of desperate effort were quite weary.
Finally, one of the frogs took heed to the calls of his fellows. Spent and disheartened, he quietly resolved himself to his fate, lay down at the bottom of the pit, and died as the others looked on in helpless grief. The other frog continued to jump with every ounce of energy he had, although his body was wracked with pain and he was completely exhausted.
His companions began anew, yelling for him to accept his fate, stop the pain and just die. The weary frog jumped harder and harder and -- wonder of wonders! Finally leapt so high that he sprang from the pit. Amazed, the other frogs celebrated his miraculous freedom and then gathering around him asked, "Why did you continue jumping when we told you it was impossible?" Reading their lips, the astonished frog explained to them that he was deaf, and that when he saw their gestures and shouting, he thought they were cheering him on. What he had perceived as encouragement inspired him to try harder and to succeed against all odds.
This simple story contains a powerful lesson. Your encouraging words can lift someone up and help them make it through the day. Your destructive words can cause deep wounds; they may be the weapons that destroy someone's desire to continue trying -- or even their life. Your destructive, careless word can diminish someone in the eyes of others, destroy their influence and have a lasting impact on the way others respond to them.
Hazrat Abu Musa(radhiyallahu anhu) enquired from the Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam), "Which of the Muslims are best ?" The Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said that, those who do not cause troubles and injuries through their actions and words to anyone. (Bukhari, Muslim)
Hazrat Bara bin Azib(radhiyallahu anhu) reported that Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said: to a villager that if he cannot do anything else, he should control his tongue. (Ibn Haban)
Hazrat Abu Huraira(radhiyallahu anhu) reported that Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said that, whom Allah saves from the sin of the tongue and of the private part, will go to Paradise. (Bukhari, Muslim)
Hazrat Sufyan Saqafi(radhiyallahu anhu) asked the Prophet(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam), "Oh reverent Prophet ! what your honour feels, is more dangerous thing in me?" Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) held his tongue with his fingers and said, "this" (Abu Shaikh)
Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said to Hazrat Mua'az bin Jabal (radhiyallahu anhu) that the way of being saved from sins is to control the tongue. (Tirmizi)
Hazrat Abu Saeed Khudri (radhiyallahu anhu) says that the Prophet(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that when man wakes up in the morning, all the limbs tell the tongue to have fear of Allah. They are with it. If it remains straight, they will also remain straight but if it is crooked, they will also go crooked. (Tirmizi)
Hazrat Abdullah(radhiyallahu anhu) says that Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that most of the lapses of man are due to the tongue. (Tibrani)
Hazrat Abu Bakr(radhiyallahu anhu) says that Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that all limbs of men complain of the sharpness and irrelevance of the tongue. (Baihaqi)
Hazrat Abdullah bin Umar(radhiyallahu anhu) says that Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that the one who remains silent secures salvation. (Tirmizi)
Hazrat Sauban(radhiyallahu anhu) says that the Prophet(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that happiness be for the man, who has a control over his tongue and sits at home away from the mischief of men and remains penitent on thinking over his sins. (Tibrani). A Similar statement is also made by Hazrat Abu Amama(radhiyallahu anhu).
Hazrat Abu Musa(radhiyallahu anhu) says that the Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that one who keeps his tongue and the private part under his control, will go straight to Paradise. (Tibrani) . Similar statements are also narrated by Hazrat Sahal bin Saad(radhiyallahu anhu) and Hazrat Abu Huraira(radhiyallahu anhu).
Abu Darda(radhiyallahu anhu) reported that Rasullullah(sallallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said: " Surely the heaviest thing that will be placed in the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection will be his good manners." (He also said): "Surely, Allah hates (antagonises) the obscene and the indecent speaker." (Tirmizi)
"Each person's every joint must perform a charity every day the Sun comes up : to act justly between two people is a charity; to help a man with his mount, lifting him onto it or hoisting up his belongings onto it is a charity: a good word is a charity, every step you take to prayers is a charity and removing a harmful thing from the road is a charity." (Bukhari, Muslim)
He who believes in God and the Last Day should honour his guest; he who believes in God and the Last Day should not annoy his neighbours; and he who believes in God and the Last Day should say what is good or keep silent. (Bukhari, Muslim)
A good word is charity. (Bukhari, Muslim)
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